oh yeah….

and if all the heart-wrenching activity in the prior entry wasn’t enough, we think my mother-in-law is dying…

about ten years ago or so, she had a brain tumor and they took it out, essentially labotomizing her.

she was diagnosed with parkinson’s disease a little while ago (months, not years).

she falls down a lot.

she just got mobil again after some nasty water-on-the-brain, non-seeing, no motor skills thing.

last weekend, she fell down ths stairs again and landed on a statue at the bottom of the stairs and fractured three ribs and punctured a lung.

while the blood was in her lungs, she got pneumonia, and experienced respiratory failure.

she is now in the ICU and is telling her other kids to pull the plug on her. she doesn’t want to do this anymore, and she doesn’t want anyone to have to watch her die slowly of parkinsons. i told my husband that if she wants to give up, they should respect her enough to let her go, even if it hurts. dying with dignity is a big thing with me.

my husband left just now to go see his mom and assess the situation.

his dad is full of guilt because he didn’t take her to the hospital right away.

i will probably head to vegas this weekend to be with my husband after our other friend gets back into town so we will have some place to stay.

i don’t really know her well, but i know this is tearing my husband up and he’s going to need a lot of help and love dealing with this. and it’s still sad. she’s someone’s mom, and wife, and daughter and all that stuff. she’s a nice lady. she’s always been very loving and kind to me. she’s always sent cards at the appropriate time and made sure that we knew she cared. d says this was a huge change for her after the brain thing.

will keep everyone posted.

when it rains, it pours.